15 Great BDSM Finales

A question that I often hear from people I am coaching in BDSM is, what do I do at the end? So I have put together a list of ways to end your kinky play time that will leave your sub/bottom with a fantastic last impression.

1. Orgasm

Classic and expected, yet always fun. Continue your control through to end by directing their pleasure and making sure that they beg for your permission to climax. Alternating with other scene finales sweetens this scene ending as it becomes more rarefied.

2. Inspection

After a task is completed, whether it is as complicated as cleaning your kitchen or as simple as serving your food, a thorough inspection can be conducted while they nervously watch you inspect every element, anxiously waiting to see if they passed your evaluation. Emphasizing every tiny defect while giving no indication as to whether they have met your expectations adds to the tension. The pass or fail grade is entirely up to you.

3. Worship

For a fetishist, the chance to worship your shiny latex clad bottom or to kiss your gloved hand is a divine gift. However, licking your boot may be a humiliating tribulation for someone who doesn't adore boots. Whether as a reward or punishment, have them worship to your exacting specifications.

4. Lecture

Sit them down for a proper lecture making it clear they must understand completely what you want them to know, i.e. addressing you correctly, not texting you too early in the morning, or any other protocol you have established. To demonstrate comprehension, have them recite their lesson to your satisfaction. Make it clear that they may be randomly tested on their proficiency.

5. Test

Administer a pop quiz on the infraction that they were just punished for, or a previous lecture, or anything that you deem important such as the air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow. Have them prove that they can do the task correctly by giving a presentation, demonstrating knowledge by writing a report, or answering your all questions. Failure most certainly will result in no orgasm for them, or worse.

6. Ten Of My Best

After a good long warm up, one that perhaps they will assume constitutes the entirety of the BDSM play session...pushing them to take ten more will exercise and build their ability to process pain for you. Furthermore, if those ten are the classic "Ten of My Best" featuring your hardest hits, enduring them will be a show of commitment and an accomplishment to be proud of.

7. Confession

In order for the "torture" to cease, they must confess to their accused crime. To stop the interrogation, they have to give up the sought-after intelligence. To end the taunting, they must admit to being a sissy who loves cock with an emphatic proclamation such as "I love sucking dick!". Or to please you, they must tell you their secret fantasy. Resistance is futile. Capitulation is inevitable.

8. Gratitude

Order them to grovel before you with compelling declarations of their immense gratitude to you for your topping/dominance. Make them enumerate all of the reasons they appreciate you taking the time and putting forth the effort to give them what they deserve and explain why it is such an honor that they could never truly be worthy of receiving it. Have them do so over and over and over and over..

9. Pegging, Fucking, Oral Sex, Ya Da Ya Da Ya Da

Take what is yours, ramming into them hard and fast or slow and sweet. Command them to service you as your sex object while you climb on top. Thrust your genitals in their face. If you are not intimate partners, order them to use a sex toy under your watchful eye.

10. Warning

Bring out a severe implement such as a ball crusher, single tail, hairbrush or cane and detail its might, with a demo that instills fear when seen and/or heard. Describe some set of circumstances that you know they would abhor (which might even be too terrible for you to actually carry out) until you see them squirm or cry out in horror. Make it clear that they are getting off with just a warning...this time.

11. Performance

A command performance is the aspiration of many. Tell them to entertain you with a lingerie fashion show, a recital of your protocols, a run-through of slave positions, a demo of their feminine wiles, an arousing striptease, a dog or pony show of award-winning caliber, a poetry reading or any other performance that you would enjoy. Whether they feel skilled is irrelevant although you might choose a special talent that they have such as playing a musical instrument. In lieu of applause, pleasure yourself.

12. Humiliation

Ramping up to an act of announced and dreaded humiliation builds the tension between their desire to please you and their resistance to carrying out a repugnant act (which they might paradoxically also crave). Sprinkle preview moments throughout your play that vividly highlight the upcoming debasement. Obviously, it is your prerogative to suddenly choose to pull back from the brink at the last moment. Or not.

14. Goal Setting

After rigorous training, it can be both a relief and an inspiration to give them an assessment of progress toward a goal. Choose goals that truly benefit you, such as something that makes your life easier like doing your laundry, hand washing, dry-cleaning and ironing or something that makes you happy like cooking your favorite foods. BDSM-specific goals are always good to have and to assess regularly such as training to be able to take 100 cane strokes or to serve you in a high-protocol manner without error at an upcoming play party.

13. Reward

Good subs are hard to find. Delight yours with a well-earned reward. Be on the lookout for what they really enjoy receiving. Maybe they would like a massage (get a book or take a class), a meal, a bath, to go out to dinner together, or a particular gift. Perhaps their best reward would be privileges not normally allowed, giving them either permanent access or a temporary stay of denial. Or a promotion in status toward collaring, maybe with increased responsibility and tasks. Or maybe a heartfelt handwritten note that they will surely cherish.

15. Orgasm Denial

This ultimate power move leaves them acutely aware of their lowly status and literally aching for more from you. Harshest option is to actively ruin their orgasm with well-timed pain that overshadows their pleasure. Or force them back into chastity after applying ice to shrink them down to size then click that lock with a flourish. Tease and deny. Tease again with talk of a mind-blowing orgasm and then deny just before they cum. Or just flat-out deny followed by a command to service you to orgasm. And anyone else you choose. Several times.

Bonus Finale...Begging

I particularly relish begging. Make them beg for you. Encourage more intensity in their voice with ever more dire imploring expression. Demand obsequious supplication. Direct them to plead incessantly for you to let them to continue to serve you.

Of course, as with any BDSM play, these activities would be negotiated and consent to beforehand. But now with a long list to discuss, they won't know which one is coming and will be quivering in anticipation of how you might deem to end your next scene.

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